After 21 years of
marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie.
She said I love you
but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you.
The other woman that
my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years,
but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit
her only occasionally.
That night I called
to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.
"What's wrong,
are you well," she asked? My mother is the type of woman who suspects that
a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.
"I thought that
it would be pleasant to be with you," I responded. “Just the two of
us."
She thought about it
for a moment, and then said, “I would like that very much."
That Friday after
work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her
house, I noticed t hat she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She
waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing
the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary.
She smiled from a
face that was as radiant as an angel's.
"I told my
friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed,
"she said, as she got into the car. "They can't wait to hear about
our meeting".
We went to a
restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took
my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down,
I had to read the
menu. Large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom
sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips.
"It was I who
used to have to read the menu when you were small," she said.
"Then it's time
that you relax and let me return the favor," I responded.
During the dinner,
we had an agreeable conversation - nothing extraordinary, but catching up on
recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie.
As we arrived at her
house later, she said, "I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me
invite you." I agreed.
"How was your
dinner date?" asked my wife when I got home. "Very nice. Much more so
than I could have imagined," I answered.
A few days later, my
mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I did to do
anything for her.
Sometime later, I
received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place
mother and I had dined.
An attached note
said: "I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there;
but nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your
wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son."
At that moment, I
understood the importance of saying in time: “I LOVE YOU!" and to give our
loved ones the time that they deserve.
Nothing in life is
more important than God and your family. Give them the time they deserve,
because these things cannot be put off till "some other time."
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Pass this along to
everyone with an aging parent, to a child, to an adult, to anyone with a
parent. Here's hoping today is better than yesterday and tomorrow.
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